One of the hardest things for a man to do in any situation is to admit we've done something wrong.
Let's face it, admitting we really do need directions at the gas station,or admitting weve made a bad family decision, or just the simple fact that I have sinned and have a weakness is like admitting I have (God forbid) failed.
Well....... I have and we all continue to fall short of the glory of God.
Who are we comparing ourselves to? The friend who looks like he's got it all together and never sins?
I have learned that no matter how many times I have blown it, my family still worships me, yes me!
I have also come to believe one of the greatest family building ties you can make is when you humbly stand in front of your wife and kids, and say "I have blown it, I cant say I won't do it again, but will you please pray for me and help me through this thing that is secretly killing me and our marriage."
Now this is the hard part, her reaction.
What do you do when she reacts in anger?
When she reacts in fear?
When she yells "how can I ever trust you again"?
When she kicks you out?
Your character has already proven you unworthy of trust, now what?
This is your greatest moment, all of heaven is breathlessly watching your reaction.....
You earn her trust even though it might seem like you'll never get it.
You do your best to prove to her there is nothing to fear.
Seek counsel from a Pastor even though most would look at you like you have the plague, and would never admit they struggle with some of the same temptations?
And finally, Yes, the right thing to do is admit you have sinned to your wife.
No matter the reaction, and confess your sin to a close and "godly" brother in the Lord, if not Satan will continue to pull you down until you make the trade....
Most men would rather trade their family, job, ministry and close friends for porn!
Hard to believe? It happens everyday..... and counting.
Dont let Pride and the fear of getting caught steal your life, family, and all that God wants to bless you with.
Suggested reading: the book of Hosea found in the Bible. Let the healing begin.
By the way I know its not as easy as 1. 2. 3. But just take the first 3 steps:
- Confess
- Take your thoughts captive.
- Be transformed by the renewing of your mind..... and always
trust the Lord
........Pastor Dave Hallahan
If Jesus can make the man at Gadarene sit at his feet clothed in his right mind....
He can do it for you and I too! Mark 5:15
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I highly recommend going through his 8 online bible studies if your serious about being set free!
